Sobriety is a big concept for some people to get their head around. Breaking it down into steps that are manageable on a daily basis make it easier to understand how to navigate life on the other side of addiction. Coping skills are one of those big things that gets discussed in rehab and recovery groups, but how to get them is another story. It takes time to develop means of coping with what the world will throw your way. Being able to do it consistently is going to be hard, likely impossible. The best you can do is know the tools, work at implementing them in your life, and have strategies for when they don’t work to keep you from relapsing.
Victim No More
This mentality is huge when it comes to recovery. When you play the victim card, you are putting the blame for everything wrong in your life on someone else. It is natural to want to blame others some of the time, because it takes the onus off us. It is easier to justify the way we feel when we point fingers at other people and things for what happened in our lives, When you take responsibility, you start to own your part in your own life, and the destruction of others in your path, which leads to growth and humility. Making this shift takes time and won’t happen right away. As you become sober longer, you will see more of where you shifted responsibility for your addiction to others and begin to reset your mind to think in a new way.
An honest assessment of your situation and yourself is the best way to move forward in recovery. This takes daily practice to keep honing the skills. When you live in active addiction, dishonesty is part of what keeps you stuck. When you get to a place where this changes, you may be able to look at and deal with things in an honest and open way. It does not happen overnight and the process takes time, and mistakes. Think of yourself as an ever-evolving person in recovery who is continuing to grow and learn as you go, rather than someone who needs to get it right one hundred percent of the time.
Find Room for Gratitude
In order to cope in recovery, you need to find some gratitude for the journey. When you practice gratitude, you begin to find hope. This means changing your perspective and behavior as you grow in sobriety. Gratitude is not just thankfulness. This means demonstrating how you want to live your life in recovery. Quite often, you will feel resentment from the past. Work to deal with that and focus on what you have now. You have more than you ever could have hoped for, but focusing on the past will keep you from feeling grateful, and may turn into bitterness. Take time to reconnect with joy and expectation that sobriety belongs to you and will only continue to grow if you cultivate that inner peace and gratitude for where you are now in the journey.
It takes time to become the person you want to be in recovery. We understand the challenges you face and can help you grow as you navigate sobriety. Call us if you are ready to stop drinking or using drugs and want to find hope and healing for the journey. For more information sober living programs for men and women as well as recovery programs, call (877) 377-3702.